Choice: "Wow, I get to be me today!"  

I admit it.  I have an agenda.  And this is it:  I want you to wake up every morning and look in the mirror and say " Wow! I get to be me today!" And it's an exciting and invigorating thought. That the idea of being fully you all day long sounds like the greatest fate you could imagine.  Why? Because it's that mind set that empowers you to accomplish all you want to accomplish in your life.     


So let's look at that.  How closely does that represent you today?  If it's not 100%, my agenda is to teach you how to get there. My reasons are selfish and simple.  I like being around people and working with people who are happy with being who they are today, not 10 years ago, or possibly 10 years from now, but right now.  If they are not fully happy with who they are or how they are showing up for their lives, then they are willing to do whatever it takes to turn that ship around NOW!   I LOVE being around those type of people.  What about you?  How do you feel about being around people who are fully comfortable in their own skin?  Do you look for things to pick at? Do you love it?  Do you feel intimiated? 

R U 100% Comfortable In Your Own Skin

If you're not 100% comfortable in your own skin, how do you get there?  I love this next part. 

If you had to define your day by how often you were being completly true to yourself, how would you do?  Can you say ‘yes’ when you mean yes, ‘no’ when you mean no? Do you trust your ‘still small voice’?  Would you say you were being true to yourself 90% of the time? 70%?   Rhonda Britten, Master Life Coach  says that no matter what audience she is speaking with the answer is about the same: “30% of the time we are being true to ourselves and 70% of the time we are in fear. Protecting. Hiding. Waiting. Complaining. Defending. Justifying. Excusing."

Let's Think about that for a moment

What if I told you that the only thing that stands between you and peace of mind, satisfaction and life success is fear?   Let's think about that for a moment.  If you are worried about finding the right mate, doubt that you will never find your purpose, or are frustrated about your lack of motivation, drive or organizational skills then what you are witnessing are the symptoms of the problem, not the problem itself. The problem is you're in fear. If the fear wasn't there you'd have either accomplished whatever you were thinking of accomplishing already or be in passionate pursuit daily. If you are not in either mode, there is fear.  But there's tons of good news, because it is within your power to change. 

You can choose to practice being yourself,  fearlessly, every day.  You can be the you that you want to be - not the you you are afraid you are.   But first, and here's the kicker, you must be willing to admit you are in fear.  Yuck!  But there it is. 

Fear is very subtle, often we don’t even know when it is running our lives.  We think that worrying about someone is love and asking for help is weakness.  Neither of these things is true. When we are thinking these things, fear is at hand.  


You have a choice.  

Huh?  A choice?  "I don't chose fear", you say, fear just shows up.  It chooses me.  I understand.  It can feel that way.  Most of us don't even realize that we have a choice, but the reality is - we do.    We can choose to continue living unconsciously, allowing life to determine our fate or we can choose to step in and choose our own path.  We are at a time in our history when it is more important than ever to take full personal responsibility for our lives.  When we decide to choose each and every day how we will show up in our life, we are deciding our fate; we are taking our power back and learning to let our best selves shine through brilliantly.  We get to wake up and be thrilled about the fact that you get to be exactly who you are today.  

Five Minutes of Focus

So onto today's "Five minutes of Focus"  I'm cheating a bit on this one because your 5 minutes is actually going to be spread out in little 5 second moments throughout the day.  The following is a simplied version of an exercise I assign to my priviate clients. 


Everytime you go to do something, say the following " I choose...". Say it out loud.   I choose to walk the dog.  I choose to do the dishes.  I choose to go to the office.  I choose to feel sorry for myself and have a pity party and cry into my quart of Haagen Daz.  I choose to be alone.  I choose to pick up the kids.  i choose to worry about the mortgage.  

As you do this, I promise you will begin to notice when you don't really feel like it's a "choice" and you get to begin to own the fullness of your own personal free agency. If your calendar is overbooked it's because you have chosen to allow those items on your calendar.  Picking up the kids produces a result, not picking up the kids produces another.  You choose the results you're after. 

 As you do this, notice where you really feel like "I'm NOT choosing this.  I don't want to do this and yet I'm doing it anyway" - Noticing these times will lead you to the areas of your life where you disempower yourself and as a result, moving ever farther away from being true to yourself.  The farther away you are from being who you truly are, the closer fear clings to you.

There are only 3 absolute 'have tos' in life and here they are: You have to be born, You have to die and you have to choose. 

So now you have your 5 minute focus.  Will you do it?  Fear is betting you won't.  But I'm willing to trust that you will.